Unseen

October 6, 2009 by marlonreis

Think of all that we do not see in the inner workings of civilization. Untold numbers of operations underly the simplest of modern comforts. And the things we take for granted, are the same in whose absence, we would complain bitterly of living as if it were the dark ages. 

A toilet flushes, transporting into oblivion the objects of our distaste. Garbage disposals pulse and draw down our discards. Fumes emit profusely from our vehicles, and wisp into thin air. Crops are dusted and doused, and our apples seem to redden with the effort. Somehow, the food we eat appears neatly packaged on grocery shelves. But how is all this accomplished? Who is the wizard behind the curtain?

It seems a necessary concession to living in a civilized society, that we remain ignorant of its most basic mechanics. Think of what we condone simply by not knowing or not looking. For example, suppose that instead of disappearing into the vast dome of the sky, the fumes produced by your car somehow ended up in your house, where you live and eat and sleep. Would anyone still drive if, in so doing, they stood personally to suffer the consequences? Likewise, would we think differently of what we flushed down our toilets if we were the ones on the receiving end who had to clean it up? Would we eat differently if we knew how most of our food is produced?

And what are the consequences of ignorance? As my father always tells me, “you pay in this world for what you don’t know.” So blithely, we chatter away on our cell phones, not knowing whether they are carcinogenic. We eat food said to be FDA-approved, yet most of us have never bothered to visit the FDA and to discover what their licensing authority requires of manufacturers. We gulp down vast quantities of pills so that we can be productive citizens, never coming to grips with the fact that we are born entirely capable, and over-medicating only creates problems where there be no problems. 

There is so much that we do not know, that by disassociation, we nevertheless come to accept. Frankly, it frightens me how detached most people are from the act of living. Most simply resign themselves to doing whatever is best marketed to them. Sadder still is the fact that life itself has ceased to be appealing on the strength of its own merits, people requiring drugs of all kinds to make it worthwhile. They watch movies because simply looking out one’s window is no longer sufficiently thrilling. A flower is no longer miraculous. A cloud that pours out rain no longer amazes. It is not enough to eat vegetables and fruits, and to drink water; we must modify everything for it to be palatable. I’ve met people who will not touch a vegetable! Imagine that! It’s a good thing they don’t live in prehistoric times when vegetables were the only game in town. 

So, where does all this leave us? We need desperately to get in touch with the decisions we make. If, by our resolutions, we also come to grips with their outcomes, then rightfully, we can claim to have done our due diligence. But right now, we make too many choices for which we are never made accountable. Someone, somewhere deals with the byproducts of our living. Who are they? Where do they work? These are the questions we must ask if we are to become a better people.

Expressiveness

October 3, 2009 by marlonreis

It never ceases to amaze me just how inexpressive most people can be. It is one thing to be passionate, still another to be stoic, but to be entirely without a feeling response seems inhuman and totally non-animalistic. The human brain is hard-wired to respond in an emotional way. To whatever degree we have lost that tendency, it must be ascribed to cultural conditioning. It simply is not an animal response to encounter something provocative without feeling something. And yet, so many idolize stoicism that our culture would be led to believe that emotions are no more than imperfections in the code. When they arise, it is mortifying and entirely unrefined. Whatever.

It never fails to depress me, especially when I am excited about something and fully expecting my friends to share in that excitement, that instead, I am met with impassivity. And this goes beyond the question of sexual orientation, in which it is often mistaken that real men express nothing. No, people in general express very little, even when feeling nearly overwhelms them. Ah, there’s the conundrum. To be overwhelmed! To try and fail at battening down ones emotions! We have them, but we ignore them. Then, in private, we express them hysterically because we spent so much energy in stifling them. It is unhealthy not to ackowledge that which is perfectly obvious to one’s heart.

What a lot of good it does to lack joyful accomplices in that moment of ones greatest joy! It feels awful to be alone; to feel secretly ebullient over something that most consider trifling, or to feel despondent on one’s own. These are tragedies, and yet we sustain them as if it were in our nature to ignore that which is powerful and passionate.

In a larger context, who really lives that does not perceive life to be a grand and wonderous adventure? The unexpected waits around every corner. How, then, can one go uninspired with so much that is surprising? It is a lie when, in the presence of good news or terrible news, a person simply shrugs. It is a lie to be composed in desperate situations. 

One of my regrets for the human race is that petty complaints occupy so much of our time. It’s a recurring bill; a car that will not start; weeks of exercise that do not end in fitness; a birthday planned special, but ended in disappointment; a trip rich with expectations, instead ending quietly. I think people miss out on the things they could enjoy, because they are too preoccupied with what is dismal, with what has failed, or what never came to be.

I suppose this post is yet another exhortation to live in the moment; to be appreciative for what we do have; to not waste time lamenting the things that never worked out, because time is fleeting, and all we have to count upon is in our hands. If you have strong emotions, express them now. Don’t wait, lest they fall on deaf ears.

Disturbing

October 1, 2009 by marlonreis

Friends!

I know it’s been some time since I last wrote anything “official”. Unfortunately, I’ll have to end that happy run today…

A few weeks ago, I lost my wallet! It was a true nightmare. Over the course of days and evenings, I called every number from Yellow Cab to Denver International Airport. I even contacted the Boulder and Denver Police Departments, but nothing was found. Most frustrating of all, I had in my hand a credit card receipt from the taxi that I took back to Boulder, but no one would lay claim to the ID number clearly penned on the paper. It was as if a phantom taxi had transported me that evening. 

Alas, the process of attempting to track down lost items spoke poorly of all involved. Denver International Airport rarely answers the phone at Lost and Found. United Airlines does not even allow you the comfort of speaking to a person, but a message machine! And of all, most deplorable is Denver Yellow Cab. These people come on shift, then disappear into the vapor. The dispatchers are no more able to contact them off-duty than I am!

I might easily have gotten over the loss of my credit cards, but what really struck me was the loss of my Congressional Spouse ID. With it, I lost a historical document  : the first-ever “Spouse” ID card issued to a same-sex partner. Both Tammy Baldwin’s partner and Barney Frank’s partner carry IDs that refer to them as “Congressional Designees”. That I was issued one with the appropriate title spoke volumes about the change happening in our country.

Well, apparently, it was a sham…

I requested my partner’s Chief of Staff go about obtaining me a new ID today, and when he called the Sergeant at Arms, they informed him that I would be issued a new ID with only a “Designee” status; that the original “Spouse” designation was a mistake! I am beyond incensed, and I fully intend to fight them on this. It’s absurd that in seven short months, such a demotion can take place. I am discouraged by our government’s lack of inclusion. Once again, a simple accident underscores a series case of prejudice in our Federal government.

Pictures of Gia

September 16, 2009 by marlonreis

Hello, Friends,

I thought I would post some pictures of Jared and I and our new puppy, Gia!

Copyright: David Mejias

 

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One Month Later

September 15, 2009 by marlonreis

Greetings, Friends!

It’s been far longer than I care to admit since last I wrote you.

There is no very good reason, other than that August was Congressional Recess, and I’m an absolute tyrant when it comes to separating business from pleasure! As it was, I’d had quite enough of traipsing back and forth from Colorado to Washington, and I was dead-set on being absolutely frivolous. Part of that frivolity included, in no uncertain terms, the negligence of my e-mail. Leaving my blog to languish was not so much a part of the official plan as it was an inevitable result of too much relaxation! Indeed, such a thing exists! It happens when you’ve thoroughly unwound. With stress banished from your life, your days lay before you unpunctuated by plans of any kind. You relax and you relax, and you either cease to see what is noteworthy, or else seeing it, you ignore it. There was a great deal I could have written in that month about the move into our new Boulder home, or the adoption of our new puppy, or the completion of a short story I’d been working on. I could have detailed my partner’s trip to Israel, or the visit his parents made to Boulder! Alas, all went unremarked, until now…

So…where to begin!

The house! The apartment! As many of you, my friends, know, we had lived for nearly five years in downtown Boulder. It was a beautiful location, overlooking Boulder’s Central Park, with the Flatirons squarely in sight. But there was an inconvenience to the place that, try as we might, we would not ignore. It had no guest room! This, along with other complaints, compelled us to search elsewhere for a home that we could grow into. And we found it! Just three blocks away, in a slighly less ideal situation, but with all the features we (or at least I) had ever dreamed of owning. The process of designing it encompassed the better part of a year and a half. I oversaw every aspect of its construction from the ground up. We now have a guest suite in which to entertain friends! We have a beautiful kitchen in a custom color that I chose over the course of many weeks and in the passage of many sample paintchips. We have a wonderful bathtub and a designated office space (which, in our former apartment, was no more than a converted master closet!) Most importantly, we have a commodious deck on which to play with our new puppy!

Aye, aye, you read it correctly. We adopted a new puppy in the final week of our stay in Boulder! Her name is Gia. She is a Terrier Mix. And we found her at Petco adoption drive in Englewood, Colorado. At first I was nervous to bring an animal into our home. Strange, indeed, I know for a self-professed Animal Rights person. But let me explain. All through my youth, my family enjoyed the company of cats. We had many over the years, and my father and sister still have two. But I found it so crushing when we lost one of them, either to natural causes, or to a car quickly speeding down our street, that I vowed never to put myself in such a situation that I would have to deal with loss. It was an amateurish stance, but I determined that I could easily take care of animals so long as I wasn’t so invested that my heart could be broken when something happened. Well, that’s all done now. My partner had talked for many months about getting a puppy, and the day had finally arrived.

It’s been quite a learning experience, taking care of something other than myself. I am so used to the routine of my own survival that I never stopped to think what would happen if I introduced another living creature. Now, as I wake in the morning, I take little Gia out to the bathroom before I ever set foot in the shower. I work with her at my side, and stop frequently to take her out, for a walk, or to feed her. My own life effectively starts 45 minutes after I wake, whereas it used to begin the second the alarm went off. And having a pet has reminded me how much I am able to change when I thought I was quite set in my ways. More than ever, I see the merit in challenging oneself to leave behind one’s comfort zone.

As always, I’ve more to tell, but I’m running short on time, so I’ll leave it for the next post. Hopefully, some of you are still out there!

Halloween

August 22, 2009 by marlonreis

Tiger

Hi! I thought I would start out this day’s post with a picture I snapped a few days ago at one of my favorite shops in Boulder: The Ritz. If you haven’t yet patronized this fine establishment, I urge you not to waste another moment. The place is the indisputable domain of silliness. On Friday, finding myself unaccountably excitable, I didn’t think twice about donning the tiger. Notice the perfection of the juxtaposed elephants on my t-shirt below…score one for composition! 

Aside from the inherent fun of head gear, there is another reason I am posting this picture: it reminds me of Halloween. According to my sources, we have only seventy days left to wait, which means that it has been at least twice that long since I began to prepare. What will I be this year? How many parties can I possibly attend? How many haunted houses can I visit? How much candy? How many scary movies? I am not ashamed to admit I am obsessed, and many will no doubt find fault with the excess of my plans. No matter that my entire year leads up to this day alone! If it has ANYTHING to do with Halloween, I’m there. The more thematic, the better. I only wish I could post pictures now of the immense collection I’ve made of ghouls, zombies, vampires, and other assorted creatures of the night. Evil really does have more fun than Good.

I hope all my readers have big plans. It’s simply too fun dressing up and haunting the town to stay at home and wait for the kids to come knocking.

Last year, I was “Night” incarnate. I dressed all in black, and sprayed down my face and hair, then added glitter to represent the stars. It worked admirably well if, by its working, I meant to avoid notice altogether. I blended in so seamlessly with the shadows that only my eyes gave me away for a person!

The year before, I was a “Snow Elf”, with my face painted white and my hair silver. Thank Heaven for the cape that was necessarily part of my costume, as it was dastardly cold!

This year, I am feeling less inclined to cover my face entirely. I’ll invest in some quality makeup to make my skin appear pale, and I’ll masquerade as a 19th-century vampire!

Since I so love Halloween, this will no doubt be the first of many posts in the coming month. I’m gearing up big time!

Wine Country

August 15, 2009 by marlonreis

Greetings, Friends,

I write to you from Napa Valley, California, where Speaker Pelosi and her family have invited us to sojourn this weekend, on the occasion of the annual “Speaker’s Cabinet”. Major donors to the Democratic Party are invited to spend two days in the heart of wine country, and to hear from some of today’s brightest political luminaries. Last night, over dinner, we heard from James Carville, who ran Bill Clinton’s Presidential Campaign in 1992. His topic was healthcare. Tonight, we will hear from Obama’s top political advisor, David Axelrod.

It has been a breath of fresh air for one who finds himself, at times, less politically savvy than his fellows. So it is with me, though I know as much as a person in my position is given to know, yet I am by no stretch a shrewd political thinker. Many of the guests this weekend are enthusiasts, and they understand the importance of funding a party that stands for change. They are well-read and eager to understand, but they know the big picture apart from the intricacies of legislative process. Above all, they are concerned with the state of world affairs, and do what they can to improve the world that the next generation will inherit. I am happy not to feel dwarfed by their understanding of policy, which is not so back in DC, where everyone you meet is a political scientist!

As for Napa Valley: wow! The place is gorgeous, every bit so as I imagined it would be. I’ve never been this way before, so I was not sure what to expect. The place is one, gigantic vineyard, stretching as far as the eye can see. As we zoomed by in our buses, I thought to myself how peaceful it must be to work on the land, and to draw forth life from its soil. Each individual vine wanting personal care, and the hours flying by while the vintners toil away in the fields; it must be immensely satisfying to be thus in communion with nature. We city folk miss out on the beauty of creation when all we see are the hard sidewalks. We waken to unnatural noise, car horns, telephones, but never to birdsong or the lapping of waves. We feel hard, man-made textures with our fingers and beneath our feet, but never the softness of grass or the richness of earth. 

I am reminded that cities exist outside of nature. The reality of living shoulder to should with hundreds of thousands and millions of others, is not to be found anywhere else in creation. Nor are the cars and buses that cart us around, or flashy lights that desensitize us to the beauty of moonlight and starshine.

I love coming to secluded valleys like Napa where nature is alive and well, and an animal can feel like an animal, even if he calls himself a human in the roaring metropolis.

Picture with Speaker Pelosi

August 14, 2009 by marlonreis

 Hello, Friends,

Here is a picture from Speaker Pelosi’s recent visit to Boulder, courtesy of our consummately-talented cousin, Matthew Polis!

Picture with Nancy Pelosi

Dinosaurs and Politics

August 7, 2009 by marlonreis

Happy Friday, Friends!

Allow me to apologize for the inexcusable long time between my posts. It seems only yesterday, I was in DC and eagerly detailing my experiences at the Kennedy Center. Now, nearly a week and a half into our August recess, I am in Boulder and the schedule hasn’t left off a bit. It was in vain, I hoped for an entire month unscathed by politics. Whether events or meetings with famed personages, I was quite ready to forego it all if only to have one month of my old life back.

Alas, it wasn’t in the cards. And a great deal that is exciting, has come to pass in just the last week alone. I’m happy to share it all, so here goes!

We arrived back in Colorado on July 31st. It was good luck for me–not so for the efforts of Speaker Pelosi and Democratic leadership–that the passage of a healthcare bill would be postponed until September. I suppose it is a good thing not to rush a bill of such gravity, but I have it on my partner’s word, that the House truly did want to lock in yet another piece of groundbreaking legislation before breaking for August recess. Ah, well…

The evening of August 1st was an exciting one. It was a date night for my partner and I! I had purchased tickets to a show at the Pepsi Center in Denver, and we were going to make a night of it: live entertainment followed by dinner at our favorite vegetarian restaurant, Watercourse, and perhaps a drop-in at one of Denver’s nightspots. The show, based upon a BBC documentary of the same name, was called “Walking with Dinosaurs”. I’m sure I’ve mentioned it before, but true things bear repeating: I am a dinosaur fanatic! Jurassic Park is probably my favorite movie. When it came out in 1992, I collected all the trading cards and magazines, and I made it my industry each day to draw pictures of the creatures that captured my imagination. I probably should have become a paleontologist for all I loved about the notion of a prehistoric world. Maybe one day, I’ll go back to school!

In any event, preparation for the live show involved the design and execution of fifteen life-size animatronic dinosaurs! And when I say life-size, I mean LIFE-SIZE! Imagine a 50-foot Brachiosaurus, or a 25-foot Tyrannosaurus Rex! The Pepsi Center was set in the round with props to make it look like a prehistoric world. There were mountains and trees, and all along the outskirts of the stage, primordial flora to represent the ages of ferns and flowering plants.

For an hour and a half, the dinosaurs stalked the arena, often no more than ten feet in front of us. A baby was born. A mother defended it from attackers. One predator found death in the jaws of another. It was all very dramatic and totally enthralling. Meanwhile, a narrator attired as a paleontologist, walked side-by-side with the dinosaurs and provided a sort of voice-over narration to their actions. At the appropriate times, he ran for cover, and when he was among herbivores, he walked freely in the open.

One of my favorite portions of the show came after the intermission, when the entire arena floor was covered in fog, and a giant LED screen portrayed an ancient ocean. A flying dinosaur swooped in over the crowd, and appeared to fly great distances over land and sea. Then there was the asteroid crashing upon the earth and creating the Gulf of Mexico. All of the flowers wilted, and the stage was cast in reds and browns.

We were lucky to be able to see this show. It’s currently on tour around the world, and will revisit Denver next year. I am almost tempted to see it again when it visits DC in September. But for anyone who loves amazing experiences, and happens to be in the right place at the right time, I strongly urge you to see this extraordinary show. You won’t regret it!

Yesterday, as many of you probably already know, my partner hosted Speaker Nancy Pelosi in Boulder for a high-dollar fundraiser and an intimate dinner afterwards. I’m very proud of my partner. He has risen to be a leader in his freshman class, not only by the boldness of his bills, but by the support he has shown his fellow Democrats. He is an inspiring fundraiser, and the Speaker came to Boulder on the condition that he would raise her $100,000 for what the party calls “Frontline Candidates”. These are the Democrats who were elected in otherwise conservative districts, who stand to lose their elections in 2010 if the party is unable to get out the vote. Much is made of the Democratic majority, and the landmark bills that have passed these last six months were made possible only by the teamwork and common vision of that party. To lose 30 members is common in off-election years, but the Democrats can’t sustain such attrition if they want to continue passing great, progressive bills. 

So the fundraising has begun already. Colorado’s own Betsy Markey from CD-4 is a Frontline Candidate, and will need all the help she can get in winning her seat again in 2010.

As always, Speaker Pelosi acquitted herself with poise and a total grasp of the issues. She gave a wonderful speech at a house party hosted by my friends, and afterwards, masterfully conducted a table of ten, very politically-savvy citizens, of which I was fortunate to be one. The topic was healthcare, and specifically, the importance of the public insurance option. I think the Speaker’s tact is an excellent one: she believes that prevention is the key to funding insurance for all citizens. Right now, our country spends untold millions on the uninsured who end up in emergency rooms and can’t pay their bills. The savings brought about by prevention will go a considerable way toward affording healthcare for all people. I was tempted, though reasoned otherwise, to bring up the issue of how America eats as a key contributor to health epidemics. I want people to acknowledge that our country’s obsession with meat and dairy has negative implications for both health and the environment. Sooner than later, I’ll write a letter to the Speaker with just those thoughts, but for now, I’m still working out the best way to express the argument.

I promise not to wait so long before writing again! I have more to tell, but this post has already outgrown its inspiration, and I’d best save something for tomorrow. Until then, my friends…

The Color Purple

July 29, 2009 by marlonreis

Greetings, Friends,

Have I got a story for you!

Two days ago, I received an e-mail from my partner’s scheduler: would you like to attend a showing of “The Color Purple” at the Kennedy Center for Performing Arts? “Why yes, yes I would. That sounds like a capital idea for Wednesday night plans.”

My heartfelt response sounded more like, “Now we’re talking!”

At long last acclimating to DC, I have come to recognize that its attractions are in a class by themselves. To sequester myself at home has been an awful shame when so much of the city begged to be explored. DC is a home for the arts, inasmuch as its resources rival those of a New York or a London. The Kennedy Center itself is a match for any Broadway theater, and this is to say nothing of its countless galleries, museums, and libraries, each of which is either the largest, or the prettiest, or it was worked upon by some luminary of the humanities. In short, nothing is here that is not in some way superlative. I might spend two lifetimes absorbing all that is offered in our Nation’s Capital. And here was a lovely way to start!   

From a friend’s recent status update on Facebook, I was given to know that “The Color Purple”, underwritten by Oprah Winfrey herself, had recently begun its run at the Kennedy Center. And I half thought at the time, “yes, that would make quite a lovely evening. I would like to do that very much.” It didn’t take but a moment’s thought to resolve that response. Still, I read on and discovered not only were we invited to see the play, but our invitation came from none other than the President and First Lady themselves! We would sit in the President’s Box Seats at the Kennedy Center for Performing Arts! This was too much. I pounded out an answer as fast as my fingers could muster, and within the hour, the starry engagement made its appearance on our Wednesday schedule. Here, I feel it is only right to confess my absolute love of life when surprises like this shake down at our feet.

I had to restrain myself from professing my elation to all the world! I had no idea whether it was a matter for secrecy or if we would be merely two among a hundred of the invited. It has been so before that an event I mistook for intimate, has been in fact overrun with attendees. No matter, I would have been overjoyed to be merely 1 of 1,000!

The night of the play arrived, and I dressed myself for the occasion, making sure to don my Congressional Spouse pin. Who knows when it will come in handy, or when not wearing it will deny me entrance?

We were met at the playhouse by two, fellow House Members: Suzanne Kosmas from Florida, and Kathy Dahlkemper from Pennsylvania. I couldn’t have been happier, for these fine ladies are some of our best friends in DC, and I spent my first few weeks in orientation always seeking them out for the comfort of familiar company.

We were escorted by a White House aid to to the Mezzanine level, and shown into a vestibule of sorts. Here, I could barely calm myself. There, on the wall, was the Official Seal of the President of the United States. Some few chairs were arranged in a circle around a coffee table. A coat closet opened directly on our left. Since we were not entirely punctual in arriving, we passed through this room in a hurry, and entered the box proper. At first, I thought the entire Mezzanine belonged to the President, but I soon saw that we were bound in by walls, which separated us from the other boxes. There were, in reality, only 8 seats! This was quite intimate!

The thought had, by now, occured to me that we would not be joined by the President and First Lady, but that we were invited was still a powerful charm. They had, no doubt, seen the play on its opening night.

We introduced ourselves to some few other individuals in the box–two of them, White House Staff, and two others, House Staff. Then we seated ourselves and the play began.

I noticed that the President’s Box is the exact center of  the Mezzanine, affording a perfect view of the players on stage. And at intermission, we were invited back into the antechamber, and offered champagne and snacks.

It was a fantasy come true! Every luxury was offered to make us feel comfortable. And the play was beyond amazing. The actors and actresses were totally captivating. Among them was Fantasia from the 2004 season of American Idol, whose rendering in the role of Celie was inspiring to say the least. I can think of no other play that so powerfully dovetails suffering with redemption. You come away feeling proud of the characters for what they endure and the strength of their perseverence. 

It was one amazing night and I am hoping to pen a letter of thanks to the President for making our plans so special.